I tried watching the Oscars. As I don’t have a television, I streamed it on Crave, Canada’s version of HBO and the streaming service responsible for Heated Rivalry. Turns out Crave didn’t have the capacity for carrying the ceremony. I assume too many people tried to stream it, resulting in the broadcast crashing countless times. All I saw were a few little bits.
One of those bits was part of—but not all of—Billy Crystal’s speech honouring Rob Reiner. If the only thing Reiner ever did was direct When Harry Met Sally, he’d be an icon to me. It’s my favourite movie. I’ve watched it so many times and even read the screenplay (Thank you, Nora Ephron!). I didn’t realize how broad Reiner’s directing resume is (e.g., This Is Spinal Tap, The Sure Thing, A Few Good Men, Ghosts of Mississippi). I knew Reiner was an outspoken liberal on Twitter, but I didn’t know how deeply connected he was to gay rights. When Crystal said, “Rob and Michele Reiner became the driving force in the landmark decision for marriage equality in the United States,” I did some Googling. It’s not like I could watch any more of the ceremony. I gave up.
Turns out Rob Reiner served on the Board of Directors for the American Foundation for Equal Rights (AFER), established in 2009 to support the legal challenge to Proposition 8 which stated, "Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California." His wife, Michele Singer Reiner, served as the board’s treasurer. In an interview from February 2023, before the Supreme Court ruled in Hollingsworth v. Perry that, in effect, reinstated same-sex marriage in California (based on a technicality), Reiner talked about befriending Chad Griffin who was then a nineteen-year-old working in the White House Press Office during the Clinton years. Griffin had been assigned to be the liaison for the Michael Douglas-Annette Bening film The American President (1995), directed and produced by Reiner. Thereafter, Reiner said, “I asked [Griffin] to run my organization [for early childhood education] and after a while he came to me and said, ‘Rob, I have to tell you something: I’m gay.’ And I said, ‘What else is new?’ We knew.” Of Griffin, Reiner said, “I feel like a father to him and I’m very close to this guy.” Griffin co-founded AFER (with Kristina Schake).
In speaking of the effort to strike down Proposition 8, Reiner added:
[T]here will be a time years from now when we’ll
say, gay marriage? What was that fuss all about?
It’s going to take time, and we’re moving in the right
direction, but it is about a fundamental right. We
cannot look at our fellow citizens – I could not look
at Chad Griffin, who is someone that I love – and say,
“You are lesser than me”; “you deserve less than me”;
“you are a second-class citizen.” You can’t do that.
Hurrah, Rob and Michele.
Rob Reiner knew LGBTQ+ rights were part of the trajectory of civil rights in the U.S., citing the paths to women’s rights, interracial marriages and racial equality. He also knew that the 2015 case of Obergefell v. Hodges, recognizing marriage equality was an incredible step forward but not the end of the fight. Four days after the decision, he wrote an op-ed piece in Variety which the publication titled, “Rob Reiner on the ‘Long, Long Process’ to Widespread LGBT Acceptance.” He hinted at the next steps when he wrote, “It’s so heartening to think young people don’t think twice about gay marriage. And I think it’s going to be the same with the transgender community. It’s going to get closer and closer to the ideal that we are all one.”
Yes, Rob and Michele Reiner were committed, invaluable gay allies. They are missed.
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