tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post1787221433433642404..comments2024-03-26T08:11:26.710-07:00Comments on AGING GAYLY : SURVIVING CHRISTMASAging Gaylyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09886888900957765438noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-27809336207631938222015-12-14T19:34:11.352-08:002015-12-14T19:34:11.352-08:00Hi Cooper,
Thanks so much for your comment. I hop...Hi Cooper,<br /><br />Thanks so much for your comment. I hope you'll check back on the blog from time to time.<br /><br />I was most definitely deep in a depression at this time last year when I wrote this post. I want to remind people that Christmas and the notion of requisite merriness can overwhelm a person who cannot celebrate the season for whatever reason. It can be so hard to get through an ordinary day, all the more agonizing at Christmas. The gap between a person who is depressed and how a person is "supposed" to feel is all the greater. When life is a struggle, I hope a person can tune out the noise of Christmas and continue to inch forward, regular day to regular day. Sometimes that is plenty!Aging Gaylyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09886888900957765438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-71477121697074546502015-12-13T20:40:15.847-08:002015-12-13T20:40:15.847-08:00Hey RG,
I understand your feelings. Despite poli...Hey RG, <br /><br />I understand your feelings. Despite politics I'd go to your Aunt & Uncle's. Explain to your parents you can't be around Homophobia. That's it. Do what you must for yourself. You do sound clinically depressed. Take care of yourself. Sending you positive energy. Cooper the Lesbian Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-80906978410997611702014-12-23T04:56:06.728-08:002014-12-23T04:56:06.728-08:00This is no solution for most, but as a direct resu...This is no solution for most, but as a direct result of moving to China to work I've not felt the Christmas fever or crunch at all. Even as I'm about to go to sleep to work on Dec. 24th (the day on which I celebrate due to my origins), I still don't have any connection to Christmas. <br /><br />It's pretty rad, until it starts to creep up on me due to everyone else's cheer. Us honest people bare fruits of the dishonest people who still feel the same - in a way it must make us stronger. oskyldighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18421614450051721172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-73329666268574089312014-12-22T23:14:17.463-08:002014-12-22T23:14:17.463-08:00RG, your answer to my question is a wonderful one....RG, your answer to my question is a wonderful one. I understand exactly how you feel (especially about the TV and gadgets), and why you would want to celebrate Christmas–or any occasion–in the way you describe it. <br /><br />You give the impression of having a lot of special friends. Or perhaps most of them live elsewhere. I don't know. I'm surprised you're not spending time with them.<br /><br />Our decorating this year has been more modest than in years past, but it still lifts the house and adds a bit of magic to the season for us. <br /><br />And, yes, I treasure my time with Chris, at Christmas and always. I know how blessed I am that he shares his life with me. Like I always say, he's the best Christmas present I receive every day of the year.<br /><br />I hope I don't upset you by wishing you a wonderful Christmas. And here's a big hug from me. Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-72105806600127008832014-12-22T21:49:02.753-08:002014-12-22T21:49:02.753-08:00Hi Rick. I have longed for a Christmas--or any hol...Hi Rick. I have longed for a Christmas--or any holiday for that matter--that I could spend with a special person or a special group of friends. I would love for the day to include a celebration of each of our traditions. Unplug the TV and the gadgets--I cannot stand when people get together only to stare at a screen. Get outdoors for a run or at least a long walk. Let there be physical and emotional closeness and lots of laughter. <br /><br />I wrote the post to remind people that not everyone has a "merry" Christmas even though there is this overwhelming expectation that the day be something showy and significant. All the hype can be too much to take when it's just not that kind of year.<br /><br />I certainly do not want others to have a dreary day. Celebrate away! Just be a bit sensitive to the fact that it's a really hard time of year for some of us. The holes seem darker and wider.<br /><br />I know that you love the holiday and I hope that you have had enough time after your Hawaiian adventure to make your home as festive as ever. Treasure your time with Chris!Aging Gaylyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09886888900957765438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-72929337135040254332014-12-22T16:47:53.326-08:002014-12-22T16:47:53.326-08:00RG, I read this post (as I read all your posts) ju...RG, I read this post (as I read all your posts) just after you wrote it. And, while I was inclined to respond right away, I held off. I wanted to give some thought to what I should say.<br /><br />Okay. If you're not feeling Christmas, you're not feeling Christmas. For many years, I didn't feel it either, and nothing and no one could make me feel it. That's just how it was. So I'm not going to try to convince you to feel it.<br /><br />I'd be curious to know how you'd answer this question: What would bring the magic of Christmas back to my life? You felt it as a kid; you even felt it as an adult, in 1998 (that long ago?). It's there in you somewhere. You're clearly capable of feeling it.<br /><br />So what would it take to get you there again? Do you know the answer?Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-37800393245538407892014-12-22T16:46:43.101-08:002014-12-22T16:46:43.101-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Rick Modienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02157314737543591048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-58118668942780162222014-12-22T08:40:49.581-08:002014-12-22T08:40:49.581-08:00Hi Hugh,
Thanks for posting the comment. I hope yo...Hi Hugh,<br />Thanks for posting the comment. I hope your holidays bring some rest and maybe even some joy. Feel free to leave comments on the blog anytime.Aging Gaylyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09886888900957765438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7857795538755708479.post-80827152835863829752014-12-20T09:13:16.539-08:002014-12-20T09:13:16.539-08:00So enjoy your blog. Can so relate to the season. ...So enjoy your blog. Can so relate to the season. Anyway we can send a private email or join your facebook page?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08842756686914120629noreply@blogger.com